Depression Archives - Vervewell https://vervewell.org/category/depression/ Therapy for everyone Fri, 17 Jan 2025 15:58:13 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://vervewell.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/03/cropped-Untitled-design-2023-03-03T231545.631-1-32x32.png Depression Archives - Vervewell https://vervewell.org/category/depression/ 32 32 Vervewell is therapy dog RICH https://vervewell.org/vervewell-is-therapy-dog-rich/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=vervewell-is-therapy-dog-rich https://vervewell.org/vervewell-is-therapy-dog-rich/#respond Fri, 17 Jan 2025 15:08:26 +0000 https://vervewell.org/?p=23775 I often find myself wondering about the actual benefits of a therapy dog. Does my dog really HELP my clients? Or do I just really love bringing my dog to work with me?   So, I did some further research.  And every article pointed to the former question with an astounding YES.  And, well, in…

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I often find myself wondering about the actual benefits of a therapy dog. Does my dog really HELP my clients? Or do I just really love bringing my dog to work with me?  

So, I did some further research.  And every article pointed to the former question with an astounding YES.  And, well, in my opinion, an astounding YES can also be the reply to the latter with no research required. Here’s what I found (and already knew, if I’m being honest)…

Therapy dogs help lift your mood while decreasing symptoms of depression and anxiety.   Socialization improves, while anger lessens significantly. Self esteem has even been noted to improve with the presence of a therapy dog.

For the most part, therapists, clinicians and researchers report that the presence of the animal prompts the body to release serotonin, prolactin and oxytocin.  These are hormones that generate relaxation and stress reducing responses.  The release of these hormones can lower symptoms of depression and sadness, and ultimately support strong mental wellness.

Yes, PLEASE!

The BEST news is that Vervewell has a therapy dog. Her name is GumBeaux (yes, I’m from Louisiana). I rescued her  from a breeder when she was 11 months old, after learning she had received no love, nurturance or training in her first year of life. I packed her up and got her OUT of there! She is now a licensed therapy dog who receives a lot of daily (hourly) TLC from me, the kids in the schools where she is invited to frequent, and my therapy clients in my office at Vervewell. I am a lucky one keeping her company as often as I do. She lifts MY mood, my serotonin, prolactin and oxytocin, hands down. I also get the thrill of watching GumBeaux light UP when she is loved and nurtured by the humans who surround her in just one day “at the office”.

GumBeaux and I are currently welcoming new clients in my Vervewell office.  Our hours are after 5pm on weekdays, and Saturday mornings.  She and I would love to meet you and assist with a great start to the New Year.

Please contact me: [email protected]

or call/text at 817-694-5939

I offer a free 15-minute consultation, and can get you scheduled promptly.

I can’t wait to hear from you,
Casye LeRay 
LPC Associate under the supervision of Beth Clardy Lewis, LPC-S

 

Here are some more fun facts I picked up in my therapy dog research:

  • Therapy dogs were used as early as WWII (they would visit recovering soldiers)
  • The first formal therapy dog program was established in 1976 by Nurse Elaine Smith
  • The simple act of “petting”, hugging, or patting a dog can help lower risk of stroke, seizure and heart attacks.  This also helps soothe patients and lower their stress and anxiety.

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Blake Overstreet (LPC Assoc under the supervision of Beth C Lewis, LPC-S) spells out the intrigue and efficacy of EMDR therapy. Blake is certified in EMDR and is welcoming new clients for such. Even if you already have a Vervewell therapist, schedule a few EMDR sessions with Blake. Vervewell therapists works collectively when helpful, and as highlighted in his articles, talk therapy and EMDR work in tandem beautifully.


For decades, talk therapy has been the cornerstone of emotional healing. Psychodynamic and other traditional approaches offer invaluable insights into how our past shapes our present. They help us explore patterns, understand our motivations, and develop healthier ways of relating to ourselves and others.

But what happens when talk therapy alone isn’t enough to fully resolve deeper emotional wounds? This is where Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) can step in as a powerful complement, offering a way to access and heal the unconscious layers of trauma that words often cannot reach.

Let’s explore how combining EMDR with talk therapy can create a holistic and transformative approach to mental health.

The Strengths of Traditional Talk Therapy

Psychodynamic therapy focuses on uncovering the unconscious patterns and unresolved conflicts that influence our current behaviors and relationships. By understanding these forces, clients gain insight and can begin to make more conscious choices. Talk therapy offers:

  • Self-Awareness: Clients develop a deeper understanding of their emotional triggers and patterns.
  • Emotional Expression: Talking through experiences provides a safe outlet for feelings.
  • Relational Growth: Exploring attachment dynamics fosters healthier connections with others.

However, some experiences, particularly trauma, are not fully accessible through verbal exploration. This is because trauma resides not only in our conscious thoughts but also in our body and emotional memory.

Where Talk Therapy May Hit a Roadblock

Trauma often bypasses the brain’s verbal and logical processing centers, instead becoming “stuck” in the limbic system—the part of the brain responsible for emotions and survival instincts. These memories can feel inaccessible to talk therapy alone, manifesting instead as:

  • Unexplained emotional overwhelm.
  • Intrusive thoughts or flashbacks.
  • Physical symptoms like tension or fatigue.

While talk therapy can help contextualize these feelings, it may not fully resolve the root cause of the distress. This is where EMDR shines, providing a bridge between conscious understanding and deeper, somatic healing.

How EMDR Complements Talk Therapy

EMDR and talk therapy aren’t competing approaches—they are beautifully complementary. While talk therapy focuses on conscious exploration, EMDR addresses the unprocessed memories and emotional imprints stored in the brain’s nonverbal centers. Together, they create a more comprehensive path to healing.

  1. Unblocking the Stuck Points
    In talk therapy, clients may recognize patterns and understand their origins but still feel unable to shift certain emotions or behaviors. EMDR works to “unstick” these emotional blocks by reprocessing the underlying traumatic memories. Once reprocessed, these memories lose their power, allowing the insights gained in talk therapy to take root more effectively.
  2. Strengthening Self-Reflection
    EMDR enhances the work of talk therapy by providing emotional relief, making it easier for clients to engage in deeper self-reflection. For example, a client who reprocesses a traumatic memory through EMDR may find it easier to explore their relationships or personal goals in talk therapy without being overwhelmed by anxiety or fear.
  3. Addressing Trauma Beyond Words
    Some experiences, especially those from early childhood, exist outside verbal memory. EMDR taps into these pre-verbal or nonverbal memories, helping clients resolve distress that may not be accessible through conversation alone.
  4. Fostering Emotional Regulation
    EMDR helps clients achieve a calmer baseline by reducing hyperarousal and emotional reactivity. This emotional regulation enhances their ability to engage with the slower, reflective nature of talk therapy, creating a more balanced therapeutic experience.

The Benefits of a Combined Approach

When EMDR and talk therapy are integrated, clients often report a deeper and more sustained healing experience. The benefits include:

  • Faster Progress: By addressing trauma directly through EMDR, clients may move through emotional barriers more quickly, allowing for more meaningful work in talk therapy.
  • Whole-Person Healing: The combined approach addresses both the cognitive and emotional aspects of distress, creating a more complete sense of resolution.
  • Empowered Growth: With traumatic memories resolved, clients are better able to implement the insights and strategies they’ve developed in talk therapy.

An Example of Integration

Imagine a client working in psychodynamic therapy to explore why they struggle with trust in relationships. They uncover a history of childhood emotional neglect but feel stuck when trying to change their responses in present-day interactions.

In this scenario, EMDR can be used to reprocess painful childhood memories, reducing the emotional charge and allowing the client to internalize a new belief: “I am worthy of love and connection.” With this new emotional foundation, they can return to talk therapy with greater clarity and confidence, ready to deepen their relational work.

Final Thoughts

Healing is rarely a one-size-fits-all journey. By combining the strengths of traditional talk therapy with the transformative power of EMDR, clients can access a fuller range of healing. EMDR addresses the raw, unprocessed pain stored in the brain, while talk therapy helps integrate these shifts into a broader understanding of oneself and one’s relationships.

If you’re navigating trauma, emotional pain, or persistent life patterns, consider how these two approaches can work together. With the right support, you can achieve both emotional relief and the lasting growth that comes from self-awareness and meaningful insight. Your healing journey can be as dynamic as you are—and these tools together can guide the way.

At Vervewell, our team of exceptionally skilled therapists offers various styles of and approaches to talk therapy: Psychodynamic, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Solution Focused Therapy, and EMDR. EMDR requires extra certification, which Blake holds. Please feel free to ADD sessions with Blake to explore EMDR, while you KEEP your sessions with your Vervewell therapist. We work collaboratively when this approach is requested by our clients, or encouraged by our team.

As always, in health and wellness.

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The Neuroscience of EMDR: How Your Brain Heals Through Eye Movement, Desensitization, and Reprocessing https://vervewell.org/the-neuroscience-of-emdr-how-your-brain-heals-through-eye-movement-desensitization-and-reprocessing/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=the-neuroscience-of-emdr-how-your-brain-heals-through-eye-movement-desensitization-and-reprocessing https://vervewell.org/the-neuroscience-of-emdr-how-your-brain-heals-through-eye-movement-desensitization-and-reprocessing/#respond Mon, 30 Dec 2024 20:57:03 +0000 https://vervewell.org/?p=23705 Blake Overstreet (LPC Assoc under the supervision of Beth C Lewis, LPC-S) spells out the intrigue and efficacy of EMDR therapy. Blake is certified in EMDR and is welcoming new clients for such. Even if you already have a Vervewell therapist, schedule a few EMDR sessions with Blake. Vervewell therapists works collectively when helpful, and…

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Blake Overstreet (LPC Assoc under the supervision of Beth C Lewis, LPC-S) spells out the intrigue and efficacy of EMDR therapy. Blake is certified in EMDR and is welcoming new clients for such. Even if you already have a Vervewell therapist, schedule a few EMDR sessions with Blake. Vervewell therapists works collectively when helpful, and as highlighted in his articles, talk therapy and EMDR work in tandem beautifully.


Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a revolutionary therapy backed by robust neuroscience. It’s not magic; it’s science in action. For those considering EMDR, understanding how it works on a neurological level can provide confidence in its effectiveness. This post unpacks the science behind EMDR, illuminating how it uses the brain’s natural processes to resolve trauma and enhance well-being.

Trauma and the Brain: A Quick Overview

When we experience a traumatic event, our brain processes the experience differently than everyday memories. Normally, memories are integrated into a cohesive narrative, stored in the brain’s neocortex, where we can recall them without distress. However, during trauma, the brain’s survival mode—governed by the amygdala, the emotional processing center—takes over.

In this heightened state of fight, flight, or freeze, the hippocampus, which organizes and categorizes memory, is disrupted. This can leave the traumatic memory unprocessed, and stored in its raw, fragmented form in the brain’s limbic system.

These “stuck” memories remain emotionally charged and can be triggered by sights, sounds, smells, or other cues, causing intense emotional and physical reactions. This is why traumatic memories can feel like they’re happening in the present, even years later.

How EMDR Works with Your Brain

EMDR helps the brain reprocess these unintegrated memories, reducing their emotional intensity and moving them into normal, adaptive memory storage. Here’s how:

  1. Bilateral Stimulation and the Brain’s Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) System
    The cornerstone of EMDR is bilateral stimulation, which typically involves guided eye movements but can also include tapping or auditory cues. This stimulation is believed to activate the brain’s natural AIP system, which processes and integrates memories.

    Bilateral stimulation mimics the neurological activity that occurs during Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep, a phase where the brain naturally processes daily experiences. In this state, the brain links fragmented memories with existing knowledge, neutralizing their emotional charge.

    In EMDR, bilateral stimulation facilitates similar neural activity, allowing the brain to “unstick” traumatic memories and reprocess them in a healthier way.

  2. Memory Reconsolidation and Synaptic Change
    When a traumatic memory is activated during an EMDR session, it becomes “unstable” and open to change—a process called memory reconsolidation. Bilateral stimulation interrupts the original emotional response tied to the memory, replacing it with a more adaptive, rational perspective.

    On a cellular level, EMDR promotes changes in the brain’s neural networks. As the brain reprocesses the memory, new synaptic connections form, integrating the once-distressing memory into a broader, less threatening context.

  3. Shifting from the Limbic System to the Prefrontal Cortex
    Trauma often locks the brain into a limbic system response—overactivation of the amygdala paired with underactivation of the prefrontal cortex, the rational decision-making center.

    EMDR helps calm the amygdala while engaging the prefrontal cortex, allowing clients to reframe traumatic events logically and calmly. This shift helps reduce hyperarousal and hypervigilance, hallmark symptoms of PTSD and anxiety disorders.

The Role of Neuroplasticity in Healing

EMDR taps into the brain’s neuroplasticity, its ability to rewire itself in response to new experiences. By repeatedly pairing distressing memories with bilateral stimulation and positive cognitive reframing, the brain forms new neural pathways. Over time, this rewiring diminishes the intensity of emotional triggers, making once-traumatic memories feel like a distant story rather than an ongoing threat.

EMDR and Emotional Regulation

Trauma often dysregulates the nervous system, leaving individuals stuck in states of hyperarousal (anxiety, panic) or hypoarousal (numbness, disconnection). EMDR helps balance the nervous system by:

  • Reducing overactivation in the sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight).
  • Activating the parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest), promoting relaxation and calm.

The Evidence for EMDR’s Effectiveness

Neuroimaging studies have shown that EMDR reduces activity in the amygdala and increases connectivity between the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex. Clients often report feeling more in control of their emotions and thoughts after treatment, a result supported by measurable brain changes.

How EMDR Benefits Your Well-Being

By reprocessing trauma at its root, EMDR does more than just relieve symptoms—it promotes a deeper sense of emotional resilience and clarity. The benefits include:

  • Freedom from Triggers: Distressing memories lose their power to hijack your emotions.
  • Improved Self-Perception: Negative beliefs tied to trauma are replaced with empowering ones.
  • Reduced Stress: The nervous system becomes more balanced, reducing chronic tension.
  • Enhanced Relationships: With trauma resolved, you can engage more fully and authentically with others.

Final Thoughts

EMDR is a remarkable tool that harnesses the brain’s innate capacity for healing. By understanding the neuroscience behind it, you can feel confident that this therapy is not just effective—it’s deeply rooted in how your brain is designed to process and adapt.

If you’re ready to rewire your brain and rediscover peace, consider exploring EMDR with a qualified therapist. Healing is possible, and science is on your side.

Stay tuned for post three of this three-post series where Blake connects EMDR with talk therapy, a synergistic approach to personal healing and growth.

At Vervewell, our team of exceptionally skilled therapists offers various styles of and approaches to talk therapy: Psychodynamic, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Solution Focused Therapy, and EMDR. EMDR requires extra certification, which Blake holds. Please feel free to ADD sessions with Blake to explore EMDR, while you KEEP your sessions with your Vervewell therapist. We work collaboratively when this approach is requested by our clients, or encouraged by our team.

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Blake Overstreet (LPC Assoc under the supervision of Beth C Lewis, LPC-S) spells out the intrigue and efficacy of EMDR therapy.  Blake is certified in EMDR and is welcoming new clients for such. Even if you already have a Vervewell therapist, schedule a few EMDR sessions with Blake.  Vervewell therapists works collectively when helpful, and as highlighted in his articles, talk therapy and EMDR work in tandem beautifully.


Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a groundbreaking therapy approach that has transformed the mental health field. As a therapist, I often encounter curiosity about EMDR—specifically, how it works and how it can profoundly enhance mental well-being. So, let’s dive into the essential components of EMDR and its life-changing benefits.

What is EMDR?

EMDR is a structured therapy designed to help individuals process and resolve distressing memories and trauma. Developed by Dr. Francine Shapiro in the late 1980s, it has since gained widespread recognition for treating conditions such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety, phobias, and even performance-related issues. EMDR targets the brain’s natural healing mechanisms, allowing clients to reprocess traumatic memories in a healthier way.

How Does EMDR Work?

EMDR is rooted in the idea that unprocessed traumatic memories can cause emotional and psychological disturbances. These memories are often stored in the brain in a “frozen” state, triggering intense reactions when similar situations arise. EMDR helps “unlock” and reprocess these memories, reducing their emotional charge and fostering resolution.

The process typically involves eight phases, each tailored to prepare and guide the client toward healing:

  1. History-Taking and Planning
    The therapist works with the client to identify distressing memories and develop a treatment plan. This step builds a foundation of trust and establishes the areas of focus.
  2. Preparation
    Clients learn coping skills, such as grounding techniques, to manage emotional distress during and between sessions. This ensures a sense of safety throughout the process.
  3. Assessment
    The specific memory and its associated emotions, sensations, and negative beliefs are identified.
  4. Desensitization
    During this phase, the client focuses on the traumatic memory while following a bilateral stimulation technique—typically guided eye movements. This helps “unstick” the memory, allowing the brain to reprocess it.
  5. Installation
    Positive beliefs about oneself, such as “I am safe now,” are reinforced, replacing negative thought patterns linked to the memory.
  6. Body Scan
    Clients check for any lingering physical tension or distress, ensuring the trauma is fully processed.
  7. Closure
    The session concludes with grounding techniques, ensuring the client feels stable and empowered.
  8. Reevaluation
    Future sessions revisit the progress, refining treatment as needed.

Why EMDR Enhances Well-Being

The benefits of EMDR extend far beyond trauma resolution. By reprocessing distressing memories, clients often experience:

  • Reduced Anxiety: EMDR helps regulate overactive stress responses, promoting calmness and clarity.
  • Improved Self-Esteem: Replacing negative beliefs with empowering ones fosters a healthier self-image.
  • Enhanced Emotional Regulation: Clients gain tools to manage overwhelming feelings more effectively.
  • Deeper Connections: Letting go of past pain opens the door to more meaningful relationships.

One of EMDR’s most remarkable aspects is its efficiency. Many clients report significant progress after just a few sessions, making it a time-effective solution for those seeking relief from deeply rooted issues.

Final Thoughts

EMDR is more than a therapeutic technique; it’s a pathway to reclaiming your peace and potential. Whether you’re navigating the aftermath of trauma or looking to overcome persistent anxiety, EMDR offers a structured, evidence-based approach to healing. By unlocking the brain’s innate ability to heal, it paves the way for a brighter, more balanced future.

If you’re ready to transform your well-being, consider exploring EMDR with a trained therapist. Your healing journey is just one step away.

Stay tuned for the second article of three in which Blake explores the neuroscience of EMDR.

At Vervewell, our team of exceptionally skilled therapists offers various styles of and approaches to talk therapy: Psychodynamic, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Solution Focused Therapy,  and EMDR.  EMDR requires extra certification, which Blake holds. Please feel free to ADD sessions with Blake to explore EMDR, while you KEEP your sessions with your Vervewell therapist. We work collaboratively when this approach is requested by our clients, or encouraged by our team.

As always, in health and wellness.

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It’s Thanksgiving week.

Typically, not always, but usually, families gather for this holiday. Some have an entire week away from their office, their professional world, some only a day or two. Either way, the assignment is typically gratitude, the assumption is thankfulness.  Yet for many, visiting family, extra expenses, time away from routine, offer stressful feelings and triggered reactions, making gratitude and thankfulness feel like a pipe dream, allowing anxiety and defensiveness to hold premium real estate in our thoughts and behaviors.

Our feelings are derived from our thoughts, and the way we think about things is a habit, a default setting, often a format deeply embedded from our childhood. The good news about this is, believe it or not, we have the choice to choose our thoughts, at every turn, therefore, directing how we feel at any given moment. That’s so cool, amazing really, but the choosing of our thoughts is a hard habit to break. It takes practice, for sure, as we are breaking a deeply embedded habit of HOW we think about certain things, which in turn generates feelings that can either make us or break us. I expand upon this in my Rethink Method, which travels us through the steps that take us from triggers to outcome: something happens, we think about it, which passes us to a feeling, which determines our next step, which gives us our results, or life experience. But for the sake of this email, I’ll give you a simple hack that truncates this idea.

Come up with a word. A word that tells your brain to generate thoughts of depth and love, and to do it pronto, do it now. A word that, when whispered to ourselves, rushes OUT the negative thinking and anxious feelings,  and quickly floods our mind with all things that hold light and love.

You may use my word if you don’t have your own. I came up with mine years ago as I was walking on the Trinity Trail in Fort Worth, Texas.

ENGULF.

That’s right, I rattle it off again and again. Engulf, engulf, engulf.

ENGULF is an acronym that stands for: Energy, Nature, God, Universe, Love and Faith.

I know, I know, each of these is such a giant concept, but for me, gathering these words in a row, piling up these concepts, offers direction to my own mind. Instead of any habitually placed swirling thoughts that may pull down my feelings, I fill my mind with these beautiful, intentional words. The occupancy of these ideas in my mind evicts anxiety from my body rather promptly, taking me from trigger to outcome in a lifted, concise and prompt way. The more I practice this hack, the more quickly my feelings improve.

The Vervewell therapists are a busy team this week. Please do not hesitate to get on our calendar as we will be seeing clients a few days this holiday week, while we take a couple of days to be with our families and loved ones.

 

We are so glad you are here.

In wellness,

Beth and the Vervewell Team

(Heather, Jason, Blake and Casye…and GumBeaux the always precious therapy dog)

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Think About This

For someone who just released her first self-help book, makes a living as a seasoned psychotherapist, and is launching a website for digital courses on self-help and personal growth topics in a matter of weeks, I am having far too many negative thoughts, and much too many sleepless nights.

I’ve been feeling a lot of fear lately, which keeps me awake. Mostly due to being alone around the clock while on this nomadically northeast adventure. My two cats are great, for sure, but our conversations are limited due to some language barriers. 

The fear also crept in because of some not-so-desirable things happening for me since I’ve been on this adventure. Things I did not see coming, things for which I did not plan. Over the last few years I’ve learned that historically, my go to mind set when the not-so-desirable happens, is to wrestle with the things, to judge and shame myself because of the things, to fear the things, to put up my dukes and wrap myself with resistance because of the things, and to fixate on and try to fix all the things.  It is here where I’m learning the delicious art of letting go. For so many years prior to now, letting go was something I didn’t really understand, therefore I didn’t know how to do it. So I held on instead.

Early this morning I pulled the blanket from my bed, wrapped it around me and piled myself on to the sofa so I could stare at a different ceiling. And I got busy thinking. My book, as well as one of my digital courses dives rather deeply into one of my therapy methods which outlines how our thoughts are the drivers of our everyday outcomes. Our thoughts happen first, our outcomes follow suit. However, what we typically do as humans is generate thoughts that are in reaction to our daily outcomes. Something happens, and our thoughts become directed by what happens, we get consumed with thoughts of problem solving or hiding, and by doing so, we open ourselves to likely attract more of that not-so-desirable outcome. Because, in fact, contrary to our tendencies, thoughts do come first, and our everyday outcomes follow suit, not the other way around.

Let me be clear, there are a lot of things out there over which we have no control, that are not to be put in the category of “everyday outcomes” and our thoughts will, indeed, be in response to those things, not the driver of those things.  We don’t think our way to the death of a loved one, or being stolen from financially or physically, but we do have managerial power over how our thoughts flow after loss and trauma.  With a strong therapist, healthy processing and thought direction can lead us to healing and wellness.

Join me, will you? I need the company. Let’s guide our thoughts today, away from small and punitive all the way to big, bright, healthy, lovely, dreamy. If you are in a situation today that is not-so-desirable, allow yourself to let go anyway, to choose joyful and loving and lifted thoughts and feelings. Let go of your resistance, your defensiveness, your inner dialogue that is shaming and cruel to you. Realize that there is no conflict here. Let go of trying to appeal to everyone else before yourself. Let go of fear. Welcome in healing and healthier thoughts. And if you’d like to take this game up a bit, rethink about your not-so-pleasant situation. Come up with a new way to look at it, a new way to experience it, ideally a way that inspires productive  and strong thoughts and feelings and therefore, inspired action, desired change. YOU are the writer of this story, your very own mastermind. You are who holds beliefs about yourself and you make them come true.  If we are capable of drawing less than desirable situations to ourselves because subconsciously we become consumed with the undesirable, then we can also pull the dreamiest outcomes our way by thinking differently about the undesirable, turning it into something we are experiencing so as to learn and apply better thoughts, so as to attract more of the desirable, so as to live all of our dreams.

What if everything is actually working out? What if things are actually happening FOR you, not TO you?  What if this is just a smaller piece of a much bigger path?  What if this is just the gloomier page of a truly happy story?  Our thoughts are energetic forces and our feelings are magnetic pulls. Our thoughts absolutely determine our everyday experiences. Adjusting our thoughts is a daily practice. It’s a birthright, joy. Think about that.

In wellness,

Beth Clardy Lewis

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